Mother’s Day is a time to celebrate our wonderful mothers, but it can also be a source of pain for women who want to be mothers but can’t.
Fertility Network UK (FNUK) estimates that around 1 in 6 couples in the UK experience difficulty conceiving for a variety of reasons, from medical conditions affecting one or both partners to unexplained infertility. . Also, women who successfully conceive may not become mothers because of problems such as repeated miscarriages.
And that means it can serve as a stark reminder that while there are countless mothers out there celebrating Mother’s Day, many women with fertility issues aren’t among them. increase.
FNUK CEO Gwenda Burns said, “Mother’s Day can be one of the most difficult days of the year for anyone struggling to conceive.” It amplifies the loneliness people often experience when they’re in trouble and feels like a cruel reminder of everything you crave.
“It’s hard to get away from constant reminders about the day that exacerbate the feeling of loss and grief.
Burns suggests it could help women struggling with infertility get through Mother’s Day…
Acknowledge that your feelings are normal
Most women who want children but struggle to have them, or who have had to accept being childless, other than trying to be special for their mother, I’m not going to enjoy Mother’s Day.
“It’s important to recognize that this is not an easy day if you have fertility issues,” Barnes emphasizes. Please be kind.”
plan your day
Instead of just waking up with a depressed feeling that Mother’s Day might make you feel miserable, Burns suggests thinking about what you’re going to do with yourself ahead of time. It can feel like nothing, but planning ahead gives you some control over your day,” she explains.
do what you want
There may be plenty of Mother’s Day-themed events going on, but avoiding them and doing what you want instead, like booking indulgent treatments, going out to eat, or doing nothing No problem. Everything is different. “You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do,” Barnes says.
give social media a miss
There are bound to be countless mentions of Mother’s Day celebrations on social media. So you can easily avoid social platforms if you don’t want to see pictures of big bouquets and boxes of chocolates being presented to very lucky mothers. “Staying off social media may also help,” Burns suggests.
you are not alone
You’re not the only one who can’t enjoy Mother’s Day. Whether you’re gathering with childless friends or connecting with people in a fertility group, talking to other women who feel the same way you do can help.
“This can be a good opportunity to connect with others who share similar experiences and understand how you are feeling,” says Barnes, referring to Fertility Network groups and We suggest you try online dating. ‘Remember Fertility Network UK is your charity and we are here now. Remember you are not alone.
Fertility Network UK’s free support line is open 5 days a week from 10am to 4pm and is run by two former fertility nurses. Call 0121 323 5025 (Diane, Mon/Wed/Fri) and 07816 086694 (Janet, Tue/Thur).
